Dealing With No At Day Care
Dealing with ‘No’ at Day Care
We all know the scenario. toddler hears the word ‘no’ many times toddler ignores the word ‘no’ toddler learns the word ‘no’ toddler thinks saying the word ‘no’ is absolutely hilarious the word ‘no’ becomes apparently ineffective and provider is at wits end! Enunciating the word ‘no’ is easier than saying ‘yes’ add that to the fact that kids tend to hear ‘no’ a lot more frequently and you get a perfect recipe for this seeming negativism.
Toddlers are experimenting with their developing personalities identities and emerging independence and tend to use this strong simple yet popular word to demonstrate their individualism. ‘No’ becomes a declaration of separateness and will be directed at everything and everyone. How to counter this negativism? While rules and boundaries are necessary we should try to limit the authoritarian directives redirect behaviors and save the ‘no’s for when they are absolutely essential. ‘No’s are vital for health and safety issues but too many can be stifling for a child and they will rebel or simply ignore all those overwhelming rules.
Avoid arbitrary rules ‘don’t do that because I said so’ instead offering a rationale ‘don’t put your fingers in the door jam because they’ll get chopped off!!’. Explaining the reasons for your rules to kids helps them to understand why they exist thus making it easier to follow them. Don’t anticipate bad behavior even though you have a fairly good idea that George is about to spill his juice wait until it has happened before you yell ‘no’ otherwise you are simply filling your days with unnecessary ‘no’s. Try to offer positive suggestions ‘Let’s paint this nice card for mom’ is more likely to have a positive effect than ‘Don’t paint on the table’.
Offer alternatives to off limit items so that when a child reaches for the teacher’s scissors you can say ‘here this curly straw is for you’ or allow participation in certain things under supervision. When you say ‘no’ mean ‘no’. You may be tired and wrung out but you must be firm and consistent kids can spot a feeble distracted ‘no’ from a mile off. Remember also you are the adult you are in charge you are in control. Remain calm don’t respond with anger and never plead. A calm ‘no’ is the most authoritative and effective. And finally always praise good and positive behavior. In a sea of ‘no’ the tiniest ripple of compliance should be acknowledged and rewarded.
I drop in on a child care providers discussion forum from time to time and make comments/suggestions if I feel I can be of help or just want to join in on a rant!!. Recently one of the providers had a terrible ongoing problem with a chid who was wilfully destroying her property i.e. toys day care equipment and furniture. The parents laugh it off ask the child to say an empty ‘I’m sorry’ and offer no discussion nor action for remedy. As you can imagine this poor lady is at her wits end. To date the child has deliberately destroyed over 200 worth of items. All too often day care providers can be faced with very delicate situations when handling difficult behavior in a child.
Difficult and challenging behaviors can be a tough fact of day care life. The reasons for said behaviors can be various but all need to be dealt with from the outset in a firm and consistent manner. When it becomes clear that a child is being continuously disruptive destructive and aggresive it is time to ‘meet the parents’. Dealing successfully with any challenging behavior necessitates parental cooperation. Discussion will uncover if similar behavior occurs in the home if there is a root cause that can help all parties better understand the triggers and reasons for the behavior. Most importantly though the parent/provider meeting will ensure that a mutual behavior plan is on the table and everyone is on the same page. It is pointless if you are being consistent and constructive in your handling of the child if the same positive actions are not dealt out at home.
Use your behavior policy you do have one right?? as an outline for formulating an individual plan. Ensure that you put in place a time frame for implementation and a deadline for reevaluation. It is helpful also to include in your parent handbook/contract details of situations where parents will be expected to cough up for ‘over the top’ damages caused by their child. Insert also your ‘end of tether’ clause where you would be forced to ask a client to withdraw their child due to ongoing issues and lack of cooperation/communication. Don’t forget sometimes professional outside help is required.that does not indicate failure on the part of either the provider or parent. It is simply the best way forward in some cases.
About the writer: ChildCareOnly.com is the brainchild of Fiona Lohrenz who has 10 years experience running a day care. Fiona has also produced a ‘Start a Daycare Business’ DVD all about the Day Care Business. Fiona can be found at her website on Daycare
Creativity For Home Business
Belief knowledge and passion may be enough to do any business but not enough to sustain it. Creativity is the one that does the magic. Without it we might still be able to run the business but will be unable to bring it to newer heights.
As it is that change is the law of life having a business will require it to constantly change to suit its customers’ needs. Creativity is needed to keep this change constant. To have the creativity flowing having a freedom of thought patterns might not be enough. Instead having freedom to do the business in the first place will maximise our potential of creative energy. For this to happen having a home business will be ideal.
Successful home businesses are said to be owned by largely creative people. With the neverseemtobeending outbursts of new technologies and methods of doing home business more opportunities have been created. It may not be necessary to make use of new technologies however we can get ideas from them to better our home business. For an instance when the act of article submissions was known to be the most effective way to market online tons of software on automated article submissions were developed. We may not need to use them but who knows what ideas we can come up with from them.
Since two heads are better than one we can tap creativity our from friends and relatives. Gathering constructive feedback from them proves to be very useful. Even if their ideas may not be the best ones at least we can use them to improve or spark off new exciting ideas of our own.
A good way to start our creativity energy going will be to follow the following steps. They can aid us in focusing on problems that need to be solved and opportunities that need to be grabbed. Of course there is no hard and fast way to get our creative thought flow because if there is then it would defeat the purpose of wanting creativity in the first place wouldn’t it?
1 Think of the current situation and what it takes to achieve the desired situation.
2 Identify the problems and ensure that they are genuine ones.
3 Analyse the problems.
4 Decide on what can be changed or improved to achieve what is desired.
5 Try making these changes or improvements and see how they work.
6 Use ideas and skills to make them work even better.
7 Review the solutions and see if they are feasible to implement.
8 Put them into action and see if the desired situation is achieved.
If this does not work try repeating steps 2 to 8 again.
A good tip will be to think of paradoxical possibilities since we are living in a world filled with paradoxes.
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Create A Business Doing Something You Enjoy
Have you always wanted to be your own boss or make money doing something you enjoy? Are you tired of the same old day to day grind and want to try something new? Most people dream of owning their own business or working for themselves so they can plan their own schedule take control of how things are done and feel satisfied and confident in what they have achieved.
Unfortunately many people who have this goal do not know how to take the proper steps to achieve it. Before you can move forward with creating your business you will need to have an idea for what you want your business to be about. For some people choosing this is easy. For many it is not so easy and they spend time researching and trying to decide which business idea will work for them and bring them success. One thing that will help you dramatically in making your decision is to choose something you enjoy doing.
Do you have a hobby or a favorite past time? Do you like to write or to read? Are you exceptional at public speaking or at helping people? Do you like to teach or instruct others? Do you participate in a sport or follow a favorite sport? These are all areas you can explore that will help you in choosing a business idea that will work for you and that you will enjoy doing. You can sit and make a list of some things you enjoy doing or want to work more with and then refer to this list to help you get an idea of what kind of business you can create.
Remember that this does not have to be a lifelong passion or dream only something you enjoy. If you don’t like it it will show in your business and it will be a real drag to work on. This is why it is important that your business is based on something you enjoy or have an interest in. Otherwise you can choose from just about anything. The options are virtually endless for how you can start your own business today.
Remember that if you want your business to be successful it needs to be something that you will enjoy spending time working on. If you hate your topic or find it boring it will show through your business and to your customers. This will result in damage to your business because customers will see you don’t care about your subject. Once you find something that you enjoy doing enough that you want to create a business out of it you can start looking at what types of businesses can be expanded from that idea.
There are many options you can consider such as opening a store an online marketplace working as a consultant running a restaurant etc. The amount of funds and resources needed to start your business will depend on the type of business you are starting. If you enjoy what you are doing you can guarantee you will be starting on the right foot towards having a positive business.
About the writer: Doug Brown uses his 20 plus years of business building experiences to educate people and businesses on how to dramatically increase their revenues. Find out how you can dramatically increase your income or your company’s revenue at their website which is at http://www.whatisyourplan.com/.
